A very important trait to never conceal within yourself is reserved humility. Be aware that you could be potentially wrong, your tastes and attitudes change and life is not catered to your whim. Don't submit to a feeling of helplessness, just understand that with perspective comes a proper understanding of where you are in life.
Another important fact to recall is that we will commonly neglect perfectly solid advice that we would (say we could) adhere to if we had time to rationalize.
It's difficult to rationalize when you have starved wolves in your presence. Muddling mating instincts with alcohol,80's music, and a streak of seeing other people deceit their love interests is a hard battle to feel secure in. It's a unfair war, this is Bruce Lee in his prime fighting a blindfolded anorexic with cerebral palsy as they struggle to find their shutterbug cellphone within the confines of a kit-kat bar laden fanny pack.In a room full of testosterone, men will adhere to no standard of gentlemen like tactics. I've witnessed them fight for scraps, unwilling to concern themselves with the fact that even if you can steal the girl there's a reason she's magnetized by your hairy stomach and dreadlocks. If she's the prize acquisition willing to leave her mate by your posturing up and vain comments on how "they look so fine"and have "an original style" while you salivate then there's a chance that yes, congratulations, she has a cabinet dedicated to herpes medication.
The need to procreate is so strong that people will openly set aside any inhibitions in order for even a glimpse of some thigh. It's such a strong sensation that once we have settled on monogamy with a mate you guard that position with an urgency where hostility is eminent to any perceived threat. People would rather disregard any notion of sensibility in order to keep a thriving pulse in the relationship. I don't believe having a good friend of the opposite sex that you meet up with individually is possible without a convincing desire to also mate with them.To be willing to talk to someone in a setting where the alcohol isn't the only fluid causing stimulation is an open invitation to be treated in that regard. You become an animal in heat openly taking in requests to anyone who keeps a business card to display their spastic 3rd grader fingerpainting art.
Feeling secure in a relationship where you feel the other person wouldn't cheat isn't enough to disregard the fact that all humans can falter. Devotion is the ultimate goal but there are multiple factors that hinder that progression.Never forget that no human is immune to turning on their integrity. Suffering and helplessness will occur in a relationship, but it can breed growth and redevelopment. If it's as good as you say it is, you will never be numb to the pain. It will always be a potential sensation.It becomes foolish and greedy to only expect bliss and rainbow sunshine kisses. If the pain comes from a lack of understanding and not as fuel for petty revenge than it should be used as a force to teach and ask questions about. The wolves will always circle around,but as long as the relationship is healthy and based off love and understanding they will always remain at bay.They aren't a threat if what is retained is the initial motivations that we possess.
There's a lot of learning to be gained from the spawn of helplessness and sorrow, it provides nourishment for the positivity because these components are all one. If we are correcting our structure we become able to use it to better ourselves.
Friday, August 12, 2011
Wolves In The Throne
There are very few emotions that exist that cause one to immediately seek a moment of safety. Insecurity has the capability to cause even the most lax of us to look for shelter in getting back at someone. The end result being that no one is satisfied because the original problem remains. The moment one begins to express themselves in a way that is a mock version of self destruction is when you put yourself in a vindictive cycle of low standards and regret.In simple terms, you can't expect victory if you punch yourself in the dick. To pursue an attitude of disregarding ones own integrity is to automatically assume subordination. As soon as my integrity gets washed in with hurt pride I can never retain my original essence.
A simple few seconds can change the tempo of an otherwise normal experience. When things are well we never take a moment to appreciate the experience. However as soon as things change we become prone to look for the root cause. It's important to find the root cause but never in the expense of trying to hurt another person while retaining the original problem. We hurt the individual and contribute to suffering.
It becomes important to look at the end result. Is a problem really worth the nagging negativity? If I hurt you in the process is it really worth it? Do the ends justify the means? And just as important is the valuable lost reputation, not in the eyes of others but within yourself. Would you appreciate being treated the way you have decided to act? Conditioning yourself to this habit is what fuels a weak will.If all I expect is to create separation and hurt feelings than it becomes vital to ones one emotional health to evaluate if it is a healthy relationship, or perhaps it isn't worth the effort. Severing ties is difficult in the present, but the future will spur a more vibrant mentality.
A simple few seconds can change the tempo of an otherwise normal experience. When things are well we never take a moment to appreciate the experience. However as soon as things change we become prone to look for the root cause. It's important to find the root cause but never in the expense of trying to hurt another person while retaining the original problem. We hurt the individual and contribute to suffering.
It becomes important to look at the end result. Is a problem really worth the nagging negativity? If I hurt you in the process is it really worth it? Do the ends justify the means? And just as important is the valuable lost reputation, not in the eyes of others but within yourself. Would you appreciate being treated the way you have decided to act? Conditioning yourself to this habit is what fuels a weak will.If all I expect is to create separation and hurt feelings than it becomes vital to ones one emotional health to evaluate if it is a healthy relationship, or perhaps it isn't worth the effort. Severing ties is difficult in the present, but the future will spur a more vibrant mentality.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
And so it can shift
I could have sworn this wouldn't be any good, to let myself feel is to be exposed to the elements. Extreme joy teeters next to sorrow.Indifference is my shield, apathy my sword. Unfortunately it is not a tangible battle, no amount of force or energy will help solve this. Letting go requires removing the mask, comfort comes from the mask and it will hurt to let it dissolve. I can always get my way by being a chameleon, a merchant for your needs while subtracting any possible bond. Intentions are concealed while I lure them into a false sense of security. An emotional con man always looking for the greatest return while sacrificing a future of friendship. A Major contradiction beckons of remaining separated yet looking for a mutual mind to share life with. A decent partner will never be found if one shape shifts from person to person. Reserved and shy, witty and boisterous, cunning and intelligent, all these traits encompass the morphing of my personality. Blank canvass shifting into different perspectives that satisfy the viewer. Barriers block out both tyrants and saints. My only defense is to block both out. This weak defense removes the joy of life, a truly strong defense will accommodate each situation accordingly. No defense is required at times, a major step towards letting go of past reservations.
I never required a shoulder to cry on just sympathy. To have a mutual empathy is an ultimate goal, but this goal should require no effort. It either exists or it doesn't.
I never required a shoulder to cry on just sympathy. To have a mutual empathy is an ultimate goal, but this goal should require no effort. It either exists or it doesn't.
Friday, November 19, 2010
Words do not do it justice.
A good substitute does not exist.
Maybe just "it's ahsum"
Disillusionment would be impossible because a missing part was filled. The void is hard to describe because we all long for it to be filled in different ways. One can push towards their greatest ambitions and still feel as if there is something lacking.It just feels right.Confident but not cocky. Assured but not delusional. Together but not clingy. Pure positivity without forcing anything.
All these aforementioned statements outline the building blocks of a healthy relationship. Hardships are not deterrents but actually hurdles that once accomplished will reveal the true strength of the core.
You can't expect someone to change or supplement you into a better person without first truthfully analyzing your own life. Are you accomplishing what you would like? Are your goals outlined? Do you spread positivity selflessly without expecting rewards? Do you love yourself enough to be able to enjoy life? True happiness must come from within, no one is going to save you.One will attract individuals with similar thoughts, to be honest with one self will reveal certain experiences. We are so influenced by others being fully immersed so much that we forget how ingrained we are. It becomes automatic. Surround yourself with positivity and you too will reflect those qualities.
Emotions are a fickle thing, often criticized for being logic's retarded twice removed cousin, it is seen as a childish way to observe life. However emotions are impossible to escape and work in harmony with our logic. One isn't better than the other, it's all one working part. Instinct is a manifestation of emotions, we strive towards things and react instantly without much conscious thought. Our surroundings are observed and decisions are made instantly, we will quickly create portraits of people by observing their mannerisms and movements. Whenever we meet people that attract us and their vibrancy sways us. Lovers make contact and realize there are redeeming qualities while becoming curious to understand more. As we get to know each other there is a feeling out process in our interactions. Every actions speaks volumes. Whether they seem indifferent or fully immersed can be seen in even small gestures.
Love is a often discussed concept, often one hears of writers who seem almost blinded by the idea. Whether it be comparing ones companion to roses and pure bliss, or mentioning how one should,"fuck bitches, get money" there is an outlet for this idea. Obviously there is a certain selfless trait we all exhibit that helps in love. We go out of our way to help without expecting a reward. We care for people not because we want anything but because we have a mutual connection. Even if we don't feel like they appreciate us we still strive towards making their lives better. But a healthy relationship garners a mutual understanding where there isn't a need to feel unappreciated. Certainty takes time to build and it does not imply one should feel unshielded to feel it. There is no need for a shield at all, a deep connection only flourishes through acceptance and honesty.
A true friend is someone you can talk to openly without feeling self conscious or negative towards. We enjoy spending time with them and enjoying our interactions. What separates romantic love from friendship however is more than just chocolate, roses,and the occasionally "toot and boot" It is a reverence where we feel there is a bond that is indescribable. There is no fear just a mutual understanding. We can truly be ourselves without censorship. It is the idea that it no longer makes sense being alone in this world. No jealousy, spitefulness, attachment, or need for either party to be anything other than just who they are. A healthy relationship requires honesty and a brutal understanding that although it may not be perfect, it is worth pursuing. It is difficult to pull our barriers away and to express ourselves without reservation. We might feel unsure, insecure, or silly for feeling a certain way. But to trust the individual where we realize they will not judge us is an important facet.
There isn't a need to feel confined in anything, we don't owe each other anything. So much to explore we will never be able to fully enjoy all the possibilities. But to be immersed in the experience and enjoy it to the fullest is something attainable. Our enjoyment is only limited by our imaginations. So let's go out and venture into each others mind, let's enjoy it to the fullest.Adventures await, let's fucking do it.
A good substitute does not exist.
Maybe just "it's ahsum"
Disillusionment would be impossible because a missing part was filled. The void is hard to describe because we all long for it to be filled in different ways. One can push towards their greatest ambitions and still feel as if there is something lacking.It just feels right.Confident but not cocky. Assured but not delusional. Together but not clingy. Pure positivity without forcing anything.
All these aforementioned statements outline the building blocks of a healthy relationship. Hardships are not deterrents but actually hurdles that once accomplished will reveal the true strength of the core.
You can't expect someone to change or supplement you into a better person without first truthfully analyzing your own life. Are you accomplishing what you would like? Are your goals outlined? Do you spread positivity selflessly without expecting rewards? Do you love yourself enough to be able to enjoy life? True happiness must come from within, no one is going to save you.One will attract individuals with similar thoughts, to be honest with one self will reveal certain experiences. We are so influenced by others being fully immersed so much that we forget how ingrained we are. It becomes automatic. Surround yourself with positivity and you too will reflect those qualities.
Emotions are a fickle thing, often criticized for being logic's retarded twice removed cousin, it is seen as a childish way to observe life. However emotions are impossible to escape and work in harmony with our logic. One isn't better than the other, it's all one working part. Instinct is a manifestation of emotions, we strive towards things and react instantly without much conscious thought. Our surroundings are observed and decisions are made instantly, we will quickly create portraits of people by observing their mannerisms and movements. Whenever we meet people that attract us and their vibrancy sways us. Lovers make contact and realize there are redeeming qualities while becoming curious to understand more. As we get to know each other there is a feeling out process in our interactions. Every actions speaks volumes. Whether they seem indifferent or fully immersed can be seen in even small gestures.
Love is a often discussed concept, often one hears of writers who seem almost blinded by the idea. Whether it be comparing ones companion to roses and pure bliss, or mentioning how one should,"fuck bitches, get money" there is an outlet for this idea. Obviously there is a certain selfless trait we all exhibit that helps in love. We go out of our way to help without expecting a reward. We care for people not because we want anything but because we have a mutual connection. Even if we don't feel like they appreciate us we still strive towards making their lives better. But a healthy relationship garners a mutual understanding where there isn't a need to feel unappreciated. Certainty takes time to build and it does not imply one should feel unshielded to feel it. There is no need for a shield at all, a deep connection only flourishes through acceptance and honesty.
A true friend is someone you can talk to openly without feeling self conscious or negative towards. We enjoy spending time with them and enjoying our interactions. What separates romantic love from friendship however is more than just chocolate, roses,and the occasionally "toot and boot" It is a reverence where we feel there is a bond that is indescribable. There is no fear just a mutual understanding. We can truly be ourselves without censorship. It is the idea that it no longer makes sense being alone in this world. No jealousy, spitefulness, attachment, or need for either party to be anything other than just who they are. A healthy relationship requires honesty and a brutal understanding that although it may not be perfect, it is worth pursuing. It is difficult to pull our barriers away and to express ourselves without reservation. We might feel unsure, insecure, or silly for feeling a certain way. But to trust the individual where we realize they will not judge us is an important facet.
There isn't a need to feel confined in anything, we don't owe each other anything. So much to explore we will never be able to fully enjoy all the possibilities. But to be immersed in the experience and enjoy it to the fullest is something attainable. Our enjoyment is only limited by our imaginations. So let's go out and venture into each others mind, let's enjoy it to the fullest.Adventures await, let's fucking do it.
Monday, November 15, 2010
simple minds try to define by going towards the current
others push and sway away to remain with whats current
were so confined within our minds its so hard to define
so fucking hard until one comes along and sweeps you off your feet
they ignite the spark to guide us through the dark
what can i contribute, a little gesture a smirk
just to prove to you that im not always a jerk
never want to trap you, you are your own
the greatest gift you've given me is a throne to call my own
your presence commands my deepest respect
i may be lay on payments but ill never forget to check
i put your needs ahead of mine, just to define
these words a cheap substitute for what ive always tried to find
you tend to inspire, but never expire, sometimes acquire,a sense of purpose and worth
invested energy is well spent, and im hell bent and pushing forward to progress through this madness
it may lead to occasional sadness, but for the most part its worth it two sides of the coin
cant have one without the other, true emotions may bother
but to keep it real and right, is to truly ignite.
so thank you, i appreciate, i hope we continue and always patiently wait
time is infinite and we have forever
others push and sway away to remain with whats current
were so confined within our minds its so hard to define
so fucking hard until one comes along and sweeps you off your feet
they ignite the spark to guide us through the dark
what can i contribute, a little gesture a smirk
just to prove to you that im not always a jerk
never want to trap you, you are your own
the greatest gift you've given me is a throne to call my own
your presence commands my deepest respect
i may be lay on payments but ill never forget to check
i put your needs ahead of mine, just to define
these words a cheap substitute for what ive always tried to find
you tend to inspire, but never expire, sometimes acquire,a sense of purpose and worth
invested energy is well spent, and im hell bent and pushing forward to progress through this madness
it may lead to occasional sadness, but for the most part its worth it two sides of the coin
cant have one without the other, true emotions may bother
but to keep it real and right, is to truly ignite.
so thank you, i appreciate, i hope we continue and always patiently wait
time is infinite and we have forever
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Snap
no winners or losers when it isn't a game
our own judge, jury, and executioner.
no need for escape when it isn't a trap.
searching for guiding lights, where there isn't a grand master
No correct method, no method to the madness
Apply all the knowledge you know
Entangled within all of the experiences.
Become what you most admire, appreciate potential.
There is constant turmoil in losing sight of the goal.
The true meaning of life is to understand the simple yet freeing idea
Cause suffering and you will experience pain
Spread joy and you too will be joyful
Free yourself of selfishness because there is no you.
Abstract ideas at first, they will soon become obvious
Same building blocks, same shared land, same concerns.
Hurt others and you too will be hurt.
To spread love is to accept oneself.
our own judge, jury, and executioner.
no need for escape when it isn't a trap.
searching for guiding lights, where there isn't a grand master
No correct method, no method to the madness
Apply all the knowledge you know
Entangled within all of the experiences.
Become what you most admire, appreciate potential.
There is constant turmoil in losing sight of the goal.
The true meaning of life is to understand the simple yet freeing idea
Cause suffering and you will experience pain
Spread joy and you too will be joyful
Free yourself of selfishness because there is no you.
Abstract ideas at first, they will soon become obvious
Same building blocks, same shared land, same concerns.
Hurt others and you too will be hurt.
To spread love is to accept oneself.
Monday, November 8, 2010
Harmony of logic and Emotions
Our highly developed brains first acquired the use of emotions to guide our lives. Our logical side evolved much later. It's as if now we have windows 98 for our logic while we run Windows 7 on our emotions. Fortunately these two work together, we shouldn't try and suppress the emotional side because it is greatly important and much more efficient.
Take body language and facial recognition for example. We gather instantaneous clues as to another human beings mood. Whether it be sadness, joy, fear, anger, or confusion we understand others true non verbal cues. Cause and effect also works similar in the sense that whenever we experience something our memory banks store it for later usage. Take a friend who is constantly exercising and invites you to go. At the mention of their name you will instantly get in the mindset of doing activities and you will get pumped up. Let's say they start flaking on you and missing preplanned dates. After a while your dopamine receptors that got you pumped up will cease and you will mainly face a sort of disappointment or lack of energy.
These aforementioned facts are deeply ingrained and automatic that they hardly ever steer us in the wrong direction. Sometimes our instincts are the best option and logic can lead us in the wrong direction. This sounds odd to say that logic is sometimes negative, but if we start second guessing all our options our lives would lose enjoyment. Shall I have the pastrami or the turkey, we could spend hours trying to decide the pros and cons of each. A silly example but think of how much energy would be spent if all our seemingly trivial decisions garnered so much time spend weighing out the possibilities.
Take body language and facial recognition for example. We gather instantaneous clues as to another human beings mood. Whether it be sadness, joy, fear, anger, or confusion we understand others true non verbal cues. Cause and effect also works similar in the sense that whenever we experience something our memory banks store it for later usage. Take a friend who is constantly exercising and invites you to go. At the mention of their name you will instantly get in the mindset of doing activities and you will get pumped up. Let's say they start flaking on you and missing preplanned dates. After a while your dopamine receptors that got you pumped up will cease and you will mainly face a sort of disappointment or lack of energy.
These aforementioned facts are deeply ingrained and automatic that they hardly ever steer us in the wrong direction. Sometimes our instincts are the best option and logic can lead us in the wrong direction. This sounds odd to say that logic is sometimes negative, but if we start second guessing all our options our lives would lose enjoyment. Shall I have the pastrami or the turkey, we could spend hours trying to decide the pros and cons of each. A silly example but think of how much energy would be spent if all our seemingly trivial decisions garnered so much time spend weighing out the possibilities.
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